Well the first month of Conley’s life we were so proud that we had made it a month. She was still alive, we were alive and we were kind of getting a hang of this whole parenting thing. While we know we still don’t know exactly what we’re doing, the second month it sure does feel like we’ve got a pretty good thing going. We are loving being her parents and how interactive Conley is now. The first month was all about keeping her alive and trying to get as much sleep as we could, but month two we are all about making her smile.
Conley girl is smiling at us all the time now and it is the best thing ever, my heart melts every time. She is also cooing all the time and I swear she will be talking before we know it. I love talking to her and watching her try to take in as much of the world as she can. She seems to be really focusing on us now and it’s fun to see her know who her parents are. Kyle and I aren’t sure when she should be laughing yet, but we fight over who will make her laugh first! She also has rolled from tummy to back a couple times.
In her second month of life we celebrated her first Christmas where she was totally spoiled and loved on by all of her family members, and we also celebrated her first New Years where her and I were both asleep before 9 pm. She also had her 2 month check up and got her first round of shots. I am finally more willing to take her out in public and do things, but I am still always armed with hand sanitizer with it being flu and RSV season. At her 2 month appointment we found out she is in the 20th percentile for weight and height and the 70th percentile for head size. We thought she would be a petite girl, but she also has some big brains in that head. I’m so thankful that she is growing and gaining after struggling with weight gain in our first month.
Conley like a lot of newborns was jaundiced after birth. While we were told we didn’t need the light therapy, Conley’s jaundice has continued to be a problem long after the initial couple weeks. Our doctor referred us to a gastroenterologist who would closely follow her levels and run some other tests. Conley had weekly labs as well as a liver ultrasound, testing her liver function to rule out any larger problems. Thankfully her ultrasound came back normal, and her labs have continued to trend in the right direction week by week. Finally, we received results her bilirubin levels are in the normal range. We are praising God that after weeks of labs and pokes for our sweet girl we are finally done with all the tests. Our doctor thinks that the jaundice was related to breastmilk, not that my breastmilk wasn’t good for her, but that sometimes it can take up to 12 weeks to subside due to a substance in breastmilk that prevents babies livers to break down bilirubin.
Sleep and Schedule
Our favorite thing about 2 months or I guess I should say the last week and a half is that we think Conley has started sleeping through the night. I hate to type this even still I’m watching her monitor just expecting her to wake up just because I said it. I’ll try not to be superstitious, but I think she really is just a good sleeper and we are super thankful for that. I wanted to share with you all a little bit about our flexible “schedule” and the resources we used to get to that. I purchased the Taking Cara Babies class about a month before she was born, and I can’t say enough good things about that course. If you are having a new baby or know someone who is, buy them this course! And follow her on instagram because her tips are just so helpful. Cara says the first 12 weeks are just practice and while I thought the first 6 weeks it wasn’t working for us, we tried to stick to it and really tried implementing her tips and they worked! The class really taught us the importance of the swaddle, how to recognize her sleepy cues (this has been huge in getting her to take naps--even if they are short for now) and how to teach her to fall asleep on her own. While she isn’t a great napper I will say the last week or so she has slept 10-12 hours, and we could not be more grateful.
Also we read the book Moms on Call, which if you haven’t heard of it just hop on amazon and make sure it’s on your doorstep by tomorrow. I LOVE this book because it’s so practical. I love that I don’t feel like I’m reading a technical book with lots of opinions, but it just gives you practical tips and information all things baby care like bathing, feeding, rashes, what to have in your medicine cabinet and also typical days for each age from 0-6 months. We’ve been using their schedule for Conley and I’m kind of hooked. I thought I’d share our typical day:
7:00-7:30 Wake Conley and feed. Occasionally she will start stirring around 5-6, but we just try and give her a pacifier and try and help her make it to closer to 7.
7:30-8:30-45 awake time
8:45-10:00 Nap time. Conley isn’t much of a napper and usually her naps aren’t longer than 45 min to an hour but our goal is to try and make it closer to the next feeding. If she wakes up we just get a little extra play time.
10:30-11:30 Awake and Play time
11:30-1:00 Nap time (usually this nap is even shorter than the first, but we do our best!)
1:30-4:00 pm Same as above, awake and playtime then nap, Although usually somewhere in here we try and leave the house. She is a great napper in her carseat, so it’s perfect because we can normally get a longer nap and this helps me to break up the day a little bit and not feel like I’m sitting around the house all day.
4:30-6:30 This is when things get a little hairy, we play, and then I let her take a little cat nap either in the bouncy seat, while baby wearing or just on me. This nap I try and keep short and sweet.
6:30-6:45 Bath time. We do bathe every night per Moms on Call, we just make sure we moisturize her super well. She LOVES bath time, and if we’re home we make sure we do it because it helps get her ready for sleepy time.
7:00-7:30 Feeding. We feed and then when we have about 1-2 oz left we swaddle her, change her diaper, turn on the sound machine. We make sure this feeding is super quiet, with low lighting and maybe we sing a song or two.
7:30-8:00 Sleep. Sometimes we rock her if she still seems pretty awake, or other time we just lay her down with her pacifier and she puts herself to sleep.
I told myself that before I had a baby I would try not to be too “scheduled” however as soon as we started Moms on Call I finally felt less out of control and Conley started to do better as well. I am trying to learn to be more flexible and to remember that we still have to live a little. My goal is still to put her to bed at the same time each night and as long as we get those five feedings in I feel good. The schedule always has to come second to making sure that we are spending good quality time as a family and that Conley is happy and healthy. I do want to say however that while this schedule is working for us I realize that all babies are so very different. Babies can’t be put on a one size fits all schedule and what works for us may not work for you and there’s nothing wrong with that. There are so many ways that we can compare ourselves to others and adding our babies into it just isn’t fair to us or to them. This post I hope serves to give you insight on to what is working for us and maybe allow you to try some of our schedule, but not to discourage or make you think what you are doing is wrong.
Things Conley Loves
Conley loves bath time, she loves the water and it doesn’t matter how fussy she is, as soon as we put her in her tub she immediately relaxes. I love this time too because it’s part of our bed time routine and it’s always a sweet time that we get to spend together.
She also loves her Love Every Baby play mat. Ashley and I both love how this mat is developmentally appropriate and how also cute it is. In a world where most baby things are bright colored this mat is pretty neutral with white and grey and I do love that when my house is swimming in baby items.